As an experienced funeral celebrant and grief and loss counsellor, Vincent Peile can guide you and your family through the funeral arrangements with sensitivity and understanding, whether it's coming over to your place to discuss your needs, or just being sensitive to the pain you may be feeling. It's at times like these when you need someone who can offer a personal touch, someone gifted at listening and allowing you to express your grief.
Special low-cost services are available to pensioners and those on a low-income.
Grief and Loss Counselling
No matter how great their life, there comes a time when everyone is hit by loss or grief.
The challenge is that most of us have no road map for grief - its depth and intensity can be confronting and we may not be sure where to turn in our darkest moments.
It is at these times that Vincent Peile is a phone call away.
Vincent has been working with a large Melbourne Funeral Company running grief and loss counselling sessions for their staff which includes embalmers, drivers, branch managers, funeral planners and funeral celebrants. On one occasion, he only had one staff member for an hour-and-a-half session and wondered how he could fill in the time. After going through the core structures of loss and grief, he spent time with this person on a journaling technique to handle delicate issues of loss. After 5 minutes, she was sobbing, her heart racked with pain and suffering over a failed relationship. A simple technique of writing allowed this woman to face an unresolved pain. It seemed as though this hour and a half was meant for her alone.
Men at Mid Life
Vincent is energised by working with men in mid-life -. men who have achieved much on the outside in terms of success but are hollow and empty on the inside. The “goods of this world” have not eased the burdens of their heart. The first half of a man’s life will be spent in achieving goals, while in the second half, he is faced with the question: “Who am I?” Mid-life is the point at which the morning of life gives way to the afternoon of life. What was lived in the morning of life cannot be lived in the afternoon of life. And the afternoon of life cannot be lived according to the morning of life. Mid-life is the stage at which the meaning of everything is called into question. Hidden within this crisis is the opportunity to find a new meaning for one's life. As the afternoon of life leads to darkness when the sun sets, faith can be a nurturing gift that enables him to embrace the second half of life. Some men accept the invitation; others stay stuck in the morning of life, more concerned with image than substance.
In a modern world that values activity, achievements and results, it is perhaps surprising that more people are turning to meditation. For all the activity of modern society, many still feel a fundamental need for silence, inner peace, and a moment of reflection. Meditation can reduce stress and help us relax, but, it can also give us a lot more. Various techniques and postures can be used to enter into a meditative state. These may include breathing, the use of a mantra and focusing on an object such as a flower or a candle. Mindfulness is used extensively today in cognitive behavioural therapy to focus the mind on the present moment. Our thoughts, which distract us, are like a cage full of monkeys with all the chattering noise. A place of peace and quiet where we can meditate can bring us peace of mind with practice and discipline. There are benefits of feeling more in control of life: better sleep, a more realistic approach to life and a sense of
peace and purpose.